Note 64: What Are You Actually Waiting For?
This one is a little spicy and exactly what you needed to hear. If you’ve been sitting on an idea, a decision, an investment in yourself, or a conversation you’ve been rehearsing for months, Yaya is here to ask you the question nobody else has: girl, what is the hold up?
Note 64 is a direct, energizing call-in on the myth of readiness, the real cost of waiting, and the one step you can take today that changes everything. This is not about being reckless; it’s about recognizing that the wait has become the block. And it’s time to move.
Inside this episode:
• Why “I’m not ready” is fear in a trench coat pretending to be logic
• The waiting room: what you’re actually doing when you keep delaying
• Why readiness is a decision, not a feeling and how to make it
• The real cost of the wait: momentum, confidence, and the woman you’re postponing
• How to spot the excuses you’ve been dressing up as reasons
• What moving actually looks like; spoiler: it’s just one step
• A reflective moment: what would the future version of you say right now?
Listen to this one when you need a push. Share it with a woman who has been talking about starting something for way too long. And then go take your one step.
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Transcript
Hey, girl.
Speaker A:Hey.
Speaker A:Welcome back to Notes to her, the daily pep talk.
Speaker A:I'm Yaya, your confidence and mindset coach, here to give you the nudge you didn't know you need and the truth you've probably been avoiding.
Speaker A:And this note, this one is a little spicy because I wanted to give you something that nobody in your life has probably asked you directly.
Speaker A:What are you actually waiting for?
Speaker A:Not the polite version of that question.
Speaker A:Not the take your time, there's no rush version.
Speaker A:The real version, the one that looks you in the eye and says, girl, what is the hold up?
Speaker A:Now, I want you to think about something you've been putting off.
Speaker A:Not the dishes, not the email that you keep forgetting to send.
Speaker A:I mean, the thing, the real thing, the business idea, maybe you've been sitting on for two years, the program that you want to apply for, the conversations you've been rehearsing in your head, but never actually having the investment in yourself that you keep saving you're gonna make when things settle down.
Speaker A:How long have you been waiting?
Speaker A:Six months?
Speaker A:A year?
Speaker A:Longer?
Speaker A:And here's what I really wanna know.
Speaker A:What exactly are you waiting for?
Speaker A:Because when I ask women this question, and I ask it a lot, the answers are almost always some version of the same things.
Speaker A:I'm waiting until I feel ready.
Speaker A:I'm waiting until I have more time.
Speaker A:I'm waiting until I have more money.
Speaker A:I'm waiting until things calm down.
Speaker A:I'm waiting until I'm more confident.
Speaker A:And I say this with so much love.
Speaker A:That is not a plan.
Speaker A:That is a waiting room.
Speaker A:And the problem with waiting rooms is that nobody ever calls your name.
Speaker A:You have to get up and walk through that door yourself.
Speaker A:Now, let me tell you something that changed everything for me.
Speaker A:Ready is not a feeling that you arrive to.
Speaker A:Ready is a decision you make.
Speaker A:I spent a long time waiting to feel ready, waiting to feel confident enough, prepared enough, certain enough.
Speaker A:And eventually I figured out the hard way that that feeling of readiness doesn't come before action.
Speaker A:It comes after.
Speaker A:You don't feel ready and then do the thing.
Speaker A:You do the thing and then you feel ready.
Speaker A:The confidence is on the other side of the step, not the prerequisite for taking it.
Speaker A:And I know that that might feel counterintuitive because everything in us wants to be prepared before we make the move.
Speaker A:We want the certainty, we want the guarantee.
Speaker A:We.
Speaker A:We want someone to tell us it's going to work out before we put ourselves on the line.
Speaker A:But that's not how growth works.
Speaker A:The women who are where they Want to be the ones building things, leading things, living out loud.
Speaker A:They didn't wait until they felt ready.
Speaker A:They were scared.
Speaker A:They were uncertain.
Speaker A:They had doubts.
Speaker A:Just like you.
Speaker A:They just decided that waiting was costing them more than moving.
Speaker A:And that's the decision that I'm asking you to make today.
Speaker A:I want to get real with you for a second, because the weight doesn't feel expensive.
Speaker A:That's the thing.
Speaker A:It feels safe.
Speaker A:It feels responsible.
Speaker A:It feels like you're being smart and strategic and not rushing into things.
Speaker A:But let me tell you what the weight is actually costing you.
Speaker A:It's costing you momentum.
Speaker A:Every day that you don't start is a day that you have to start from the same, same place tomorrow.
Speaker A:It's costing you confidence, because inaction sends your brain a message that says you don't trust yourself enough to move.
Speaker A:And the longer you wait, the louder that message gets.
Speaker A:It's costing you the version of yourself that was supposed to emerge from doing the thing.
Speaker A:Think about that one.
Speaker A:The woman that you're becoming, the more confident, more decisive, more grounded version of you.
Speaker A:She's built in the doing.
Speaker A:She's not built in the waiting.
Speaker A:Every time you delay, you postpone her.
Speaker A:And here's the one that might sting a little bit.
Speaker A:The weight is not protecting you.
Speaker A:It's just making the fear comfortable.
Speaker A:You've given fear a nice chair and a cup of tea and told it to make itself at home.
Speaker A:And it has.
Speaker A:And now it's running your schedule.
Speaker A:But it's time that you ask Spirit to leave.
Speaker A:Okay, I need to address something, because I know that some of you are listening to this and nodding along and also quietly making a list of the very valid reasons why your situation is different.
Speaker A:So let me go ahead and name a few of them.
Speaker A:I don't have enough money right now.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker A:When will you have enough?
Speaker A:What's the number?
Speaker A:What's the date?
Speaker A:Because if you don't have a specific answer to that question, that's not a reason.
Speaker A:That's a moving target designed to stay just out of reach.
Speaker A:I don't have enough time.
Speaker A:You have time for what you prioritize.
Speaker A:I'm not saying that your life is not busy.
Speaker A:I'm saying that if this mattered as much as you say it does, you will find the time.
Speaker A:Even if it's 15 to 20 minutes a day, even if it's one decision a week.
Speaker A:Time is not an issue.
Speaker A:Priority is.
Speaker A:I'm not ready yet.
Speaker A:We've already talked about this one.
Speaker A:Ready is a decision, and you can make it.
Speaker A:Right now, I need to do more research first.
Speaker A:Sis, you have been researching for a year, maybe even longer.
Speaker A:At some point, more information is just more delayed dressed up and productivity Clothes.
Speaker A:These are not reasons.
Speaker A:They are fear in a trench coat, pretending to be logic.
Speaker A:And you're smarter than that.
Speaker A:I don't want you to walk away from this thinking that I'm telling you to be reckless.
Speaker A:By no means am I telling you to do that or to even quit your job today.
Speaker A:I am not telling you to blow up your savings or skip the planning process entirely because I'm a planner.
Speaker A:I. I'm telling you to take one step, just one.
Speaker A:Because here's what I've learned and what I've watched play out in the lives of women that I coach.
Speaker A:The hardest part is never in the middle.
Speaker A:It's never the fourth week or the third month or the halfway point.
Speaker A:The hardest part is always the beginning.
Speaker A:It's the first email, the first conversation, the first time you say out loud, I'm doing this.
Speaker A:So that's all I'm asking you to do today.
Speaker A:Not the whole thing.
Speaker A:Not the perfect plan.
Speaker A:Not the version where every detail is figured out and every risk is mitigated.
Speaker A:Just the first step.
Speaker A:What is one thing that you could do today, not tomorrow, today, that would move you an inch closer to the thing that you have been waiting to start.
Speaker A:That thing.
Speaker A:Do that now.
Speaker A:I want you to sit with this question.
Speaker A:If the version of you that you're becoming, the confident, decisive, fully stepped into herself woman, if she could look back at this moment right now, what would she say to you?
Speaker A:Would she say, keep waiting?
Speaker A:Or would she say, girl, what are you actually waiting for?
Speaker A:You already know the answer.
Speaker A:Stop waiting to feel ready.
Speaker A:Stop waiting for the perfect moment.
Speaker A:Stop waiting until you have more of whatever the thing is that you have convinced yourself that you need before you can begin.
Speaker A:The moment is now.
Speaker A:Not because everything is perfectly aligned, but because you are here and you have everything you need to take the next step.
Speaker A:The cost of waiting is higher than the cost of moving.
Speaker A:You didn't come this far to sit in a waiting room.
Speaker A:The woman who moves wins.
Speaker A:The woman who decides wins.
Speaker A:The woman who bets on herself, even when it's scary, even when it's not perfect, even when she doesn't feel ready, she wins.
Speaker A:Be that woman.
Speaker A:And if you are ready to stop waiting and start doing the real work, becoming her unapologetically is your next step.
Speaker A:It's four weeks, private and real shifts for the woman who is done waiting on the sidelines of her own life.
Speaker A:Details are in the show notes.
Speaker A:And I want to see you in there.
Speaker A:With love, Yaya.
