Note 18: Your Season Isn’t a Setback...It’s a Set-Up
Feeling behind in life? You’re not.
In this episode, Yaya breaks down why your “slow season” isn’t punishment; it’s preparation.
Listen to learn how to find peace, confidence, and clarity even when life doesn’t look like the version you imagined.
You’ll learn:
• how to stop comparing your current season to your old lifestyle
• how to be content without settling
• why “quiet seasons” often prepare you the most
• how to build confidence when life feels uncertain
Perfect for anyone in a rebuilding era or trying to trust the process again.
Ready to go further than the daily pep talks? Apply for Journey to Confidence.
Transcript
Hey, girl.
Speaker A:Hey.
Speaker A:Welcome back to notes to her, the daily pep talk.
Speaker A:I'm Yaya your confidence and mindset coach, here to remind you that even in the seasons where you feel like you're losing you, you're actually being positioned.
Speaker A:I know these end of the year months can feel heavy.
Speaker A:Everyone's doing the where am I in life?
Speaker A:Review comparisons start creeping in.
Speaker A:The I thought I'd be further by now thought get really loud.
Speaker A:But today's note, I'm here to shift your entire perspective.
Speaker A:Have you ever been in a season where it feels like nothing is moving?
Speaker A:Where you're doing everything right and life is like, cute?
Speaker A:But no, you're praying nothing.
Speaker A:You're applying nothing.
Speaker A:You're trying to stay positive, barely.
Speaker A:And it feels like life has you on pause while everyone else is on fast forward.
Speaker A:I know that season, and I know the panic that comes with it.
Speaker A:But the seasons that feel like setback are usually the ones that are setting you up the most.
Speaker A:Not because you're failing, but because you're finally being prepared.
Speaker A:Let me keep it real with you for a second.
Speaker A:Right now, I'm not working a traditional job.
Speaker A:I'm building my business from the ground up.
Speaker A:Brick by brick, client by client, day by day.
Speaker A:And listen, I love luxury.
Speaker A:I love a brunch.
Speaker A:I love a cute outfit, a new bag, expensive, especially designer one.
Speaker A:A little add to the cart moment, okay?
Speaker A:But this season, this season requires a different version of me.
Speaker A:I had to pause the shopping.
Speaker A:I had to really learn the difference between wanting something and needing something.
Speaker A:And I had to stop trying to keep up with my old lifestyle and figure out how to be content with where I am now.
Speaker A:And, girl, let me tell you something I did not expect.
Speaker A:When you stop distracting yourself with more, you start noticing what you already have.
Speaker A:I started shopping in my closet.
Speaker A:I found outfits that I forgot about, tags still on, shoes I barely wore, accessories still in the packaging.
Speaker A:Makeup I hadn't even opened.
Speaker A:Some still sitting in the Sephora bag.
Speaker A:Like, if you could see me right now, I'm putting my face in my palm, sis.
Speaker A:I was not lacking.
Speaker A:I was overlooking.
Speaker A:And it made me realize something.
Speaker A:Sometimes we think life is denying us when really it's redirecting our energy.
Speaker A:I kept saying I don't have, but the truth was I had plenty.
Speaker A:I just wasn't present enough to see it.
Speaker A:This season didn't come to punish me, but it came to really teach me discipline, gratitude, focus, and intention.
Speaker A:It came to develop me into a woman that could handle the level that I am.
Speaker A:Asking for.
Speaker A:That's what I mean by setup.
Speaker A:Now let's be honest.
Speaker A:We all hate the slowed seasons.
Speaker A:We hate pause seasons.
Speaker A:We hate wait seasons.
Speaker A:But here's something else that I've learned.
Speaker A:God removes distractions before he delivers blessings.
Speaker A:Sometimes the quiet season you're in is the one that protects you.
Speaker A:Sometimes the slow season is the one that builds you.
Speaker A:Sometimes the uncomfortable season is the one that grows your character.
Speaker A:And sometimes the season where you feel like you've lost is the one where you finally learn that you are not defined by things, status or external validation.
Speaker A:That could be hard to stay consistent when your life doesn't look like your expectations.
Speaker A:But here's how to start.
Speaker A:First, stop comparing your current chapter to your old lifestyle.
Speaker A:This one can be difficult.
Speaker A:I'm not even gonna lie to you.
Speaker A:Especially when you are looking at your friends around you and their lives seem to be flourishing.
Speaker A:But you're not who you used to be.
Speaker A:You're in a rebuilding error.
Speaker A:So honor that.
Speaker A:Then be present with what you do have now.
Speaker A:When you stop chasing more, you realize how much you already have.
Speaker A:That clarity feels like peace.
Speaker A:Then ask yourself, what is this season teaching me?
Speaker A:Not punishing, not blocking, not delaying teaching.
Speaker A:You'll be shocked by how many answers you get when you ask better questions.
Speaker A:And then lastly, stop waiting to feel successful, to act like it.
Speaker A:Confidence is an action, not an accomplishment.
Speaker A:You don't get stable confidence from winning.
Speaker A:You get it from consistency, discipline, showing up even when you don't feel like the best version of you.
Speaker A:So I need you to hear me when I say this.
Speaker A:You are not behind.
Speaker A:You are not failing.
Speaker A:You are not forgotten.
Speaker A:You are not late.
Speaker A:You are not less than.
Speaker A:You are not stuck.
Speaker A:You are in a season that is shaping you.
Speaker A:This is your character season, your stretching season.
Speaker A:Your grounding season.
Speaker A:And one day you're going to look back and realize this wasn't a setup.
Speaker A:This is where everything started.
Speaker A:So the next time you feel like you're losing, remind yourself my season is not a setback, it is a setup.
Speaker A:And if you're tired of navigating those seasons alone, if you are ready to feel aligned, have confidence, boundaries, clarity and identity, work that actually sticks, then I truly encourage you to apply for my one to one coaching program Journey to Confidence.
Speaker A:This is where I help women rebuild from the inside out.
Speaker A:Your next level isn't waiting for someday.
Speaker A:It starts with how you think today.
